👉👉👉The Sacred Foundations of Marriage: A Lesson on the Life of Couples Before Marriage
Dear faithful, greetings in the name of our Lord. As we reflect upon the divine wisdom entrusted to us through the Holy Scriptures and the teachings of the Church, let us consider the sacred path that leads to marriage. Marriage is not a light or common thing, but a covenant ordained by God. Yet, it is not a necessity for all; rather, it is a calling for those who seek it according to the will of the Almighty.
Marriage as a Calling, Not a Compulsion
Marriage is a purposeful order established by God, but it is not forced upon anyone. As Saint Paul teaches, “Each has his own gift from God, one in this way, another in that way… as he was called, so let each one live” (1 Cor. 7:7-20). If a person has the strength and grace to overcome the temptations of the flesh, he is not bound to marry. The same applies to women. It is a matter of personal choice and divine calling. The great King himself has said, “If you do not want to marry a wife, do not marry a wife.”
Yet, for those who desire marriage, it is not something to be entered into thoughtlessly or carelessly. One must first examine whether there exist any impediments that would make marriage unsuitable or unlawful.
Conditions That Prohibit Marriage
The Church, in her wisdom, has set forth conditions under which marriage is not permitted. These include:
1. Physical or Natural – If a person suffers from an ailment or natural condition that prevents the fulfillment of marital duties, this must be known beforehand. A marriage built in ignorance of such matters may give rise to strife and resentment.
2. Prior Vows of Purity – If one has made a solemn vow to remain celibate for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven, such a promise is not to be broken.
3. Differences in Faith – Marriage between a believer and an unbeliever is not permissible. Even if there is love between them, the unbeliever must first convert and receive baptism before marriage can be considered.
4. Close Blood Relations – Marriage between relatives within seven generations is strictly prohibited. This law is not only for the preservation of bodily health but also for the purity of spiritual ties within the family.
The Prerequisites for Marriage
Before a man and a woman agree to enter into marriage, they must first examine their compatibility according to the wisdom of the Church.
Faith – They must share the same faith so that their household may be built upon a firm foundation. The unity of belief strengthens the bond of love.
Love and Mutual Consent – A marriage that is forced or undertaken without true affection is destined for sorrow. The man and the woman must love each other in truth and purity.
The Blessing of the Family – The approval of parents or guardians is a divine safeguard, ensuring that the marriage is entered into with wisdom and prudence.
Marriage is not merely the union of two individuals but of two families. Just as a building must be set upon a firm foundation, so must marriage be established upon the blessings and prayers of those who have gone before.
The Right Time for Marriage
Wisdom teaches that youth is full of passion, and those who marry too early may later regret their decision. Marriage should not be rushed in the heat of youthful desire. If one enters into it before reaching maturity, the responsibilities of family life may become a burden rather than a joy. The Church, therefore, sets an appropriate age for marriage: twenty or twenty-five years for men, and fifteen or eighteen years for women.
A great evil arises when those who are not yet ready for marriage are hastily joined together. Immaturity may lead them to break their vows, to struggle with the raising of children, or even to fall into grievous sins such as abortion. Therefore, let all who seek marriage consider first whether they have reached the fullness of age and understanding.
Continues 👇🏽